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A JE Book Review! “Un-Remarried Widow” by Artis Henderson

I don’t usually read non-fiction, opting for self-improvement books 9 times out of 10,  but I got absolutely lost in this book.  Tears filled my eyes on numerous junctures in the book, despite the fact that I knew exactly how the story ended.  This memoir is about a woman whose husband dies in the Iraq war.  As she re-tells their story, you move through the romance, reality, and shock alongside Artis and Miles as a new couple, a married couple, a military couple, a soldier at war, and a widow – an un-remarried Widow. NEW YORK: I love that Artis is a New Yorker, living amongst us, and that she has achieved her dream of a successful journalism career.  There’s something about watching movies set in New York and reading books from authors who are lurking amongst us that gives me a sense of pride and makes what I’m consuming additionally sentimental.  Her writing style is sweet and descriptive and honest and simple.  I was immersed on the army base with them, their love was palpable to me, and I entered into her agony as she learned of Miles’ fate. Artis PERSPECTIVE: Their love story gave me perspective on my petty love life problems.  Here was a woman who put her dreams on hold to simply be with her boyfriend as he entered into the Army.  She sacrificed so much: her dreams, her stability, her own wants and desires.  And he ultimately lost his life.  And she spent years healing.  My heart broke for her and for them and I was humbly shaken from the silly relationship woes that I dwell in.
Artis and Miles
Artis and Miles
Artis and Miles
Artis and Miles
BEAUTIFUL: You can see that Artis is beautiful from her headshot, but you never actually see Miles.  You know how much she loves him and how handsome he is to her, but you must imagine him and it wasn’t until I finished the book and wanted to write my review that I Google’d some images.  They were a beautiful couple – young, happy, and classically beautiful.  My heart truly goes out to her and him for the love they shared and the love they had to put down. GOD: Miles was a Christian man who prayed regularly and attended church weekly and he brought that into his relationship with Artis.  I sympathized with her as she tried to accommodate him without ever believing for herself.  When Miles passed, he wrote her a letter asking her to never be bitter or angry and promising that God would watch over her.  When she claimed her first personal triumph in her new life, Artis found herself praying.  To me, this was a beautiful sign of God at work and I don’t know if God is prevalent in her life today, but I know that Miles was a man of God who lived that out for himself and his wife. If you’re still wondering whether or not to check this book out, just do it!  You can borrow it from the library for free!  Or you can buy it from thrift books for $4.  I think that when  book or a movie can make you shed tears, it moves up to the must-see/ must-read category!  Enjoy!